Just broke up...

[skybolt_1]

My girlfriend (of 1 1/2 years) and I just broke up... it sucks. I've been having a lot of emotional problems lately during the holidays (my father had cancer and he passed away in late September) and it took a heavy toll on our relationship.

I've been in an emotional slump as it is, but this just caught me blindside. I feel SO down. I've been seeing my shrink and its been helping but not much.

Anyone have advice over getting over breakups? This is my first long-term relationship and it really sucks. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated cause im really at the end of my chain. <sigh>

skybolt_1

[pickel]

My mother and mother-in-law died within two days of eachother and soon their after my wife andI went thru hard times for quite sometime. Hopefully , ya'll can get back together. After a year and half , there's got to be something strong between you two. Give it a little time and then try to sort things out. Try to be as positive about life in general and accept things as they come. But most of all, DON"T deceive yourself. Face up to life and you'll get over this and be a better person for it all. Good Luck

[tmx468]

Sorry to hear that man, but keep your head up, smile, and life isn't so bad

Don't feel bad its over. Smile because it happened.

YGPM

[SeanC]

Well, my marriage of two years just broke apart in November 2003. We're separated pending divorce.

The best advice I can give is to let out whatever you're feeling when you feel it. On moving day at my new place I was crying on and off all day. Then for the next few weeks on and off. I'd see something or hear something and boom it would set me off.

In that first month, I went out with my friends A LOT!! Just girl-watching, not going to attempt anything. That helped too. You also need to ensure you give yourself plenty of time to think and reflect about things.

First and foremost, always remember things happen for a reason. I'm still not 100% yet. I'm slowly getting to the truly accepting the fact stage. I'm still in the "maybe if we try again, it could work" stage.

After you've let out the emotion you have to start thinking with your head, not your heart. Otherwise things will never get better.

Also, DO NOT do the "What if?" thing. That will derail any progress you'll make faster then anything else.

Sean

[daveleau]

Immerse yourself in something. Get out of the house and do something. Get your friends to take you out and cheer you up. I know it is hard. I dated a girl for 4 years in HS and was devastated each time we broke up (we broke up 3 or 4 times over th 4 years). Just remember that those stupid clichés that everyone tells you is true. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find someone you care about as much or more. I hate to say it, but if she lets you go after you've had such a hard time with your dad dying, then...

I hope the pain passes quickly and easily. No matter what, know that this will pass and there are better things on the other side of this wall of grief and despair even if you can't see them now.

[Bovon]

Don't mean this to be making light of the situation..just thought maybe a grin would help. We have all been thru these breakups...it happens. Better now than when some babies have to suffer as well.



When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would
have a girlfriend.

When I was 16 I got a girlfriend, but there
was no passion. So I decided I needed a
passionate girl with a zest for life.

When I was 18 I dated a passionate girl, but
she was too emotional. Everything was an
emergency, she was a drama queen, cried all
the time and threatened suicide. So I decided
I needed a girl with stability.

When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but
she was boring. She was totally predictable
and never got excited about anything. Life
became so dull that I decided I needed a girl
with some excitement.

When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I
couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one
thing to another never settling on anything.
She did mad impetuous things and flirted with
everyone she met. She made me miserable as
often as happy. She was great fun initially
and very energetic, but directionless. So I
decided to find a girl with some ambition.

When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious
girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground
and married her. She was so ambitious that she
divorced me and took everything I owned.

Now, I'm 40 and just looking for a girl with
big ti..errrr boobies.

[ShawnD1]

Try not to take life too seriously; you'll never make it out alive.

[skybolt_1]

hey all,

Thanks for all the kind words, it really helps... I have thought about the way she broke it off with me, what with the tough stuff I've been going through. I know that I've had trouble communicating with her about my feelings (never been the most open person) but sometimes I wish people, her in particular, would just clue in on the signs and not push me!!! AHHH!

I think that this will end up being a positive thing one way or another though. Either we will get back together and she will understand more, or we will stay seperate and I'll find someone else.

Thanks again for all of the support.

skybolt_1

[Martoch]

Originally posted by skybolt_1


I think that this will end up being a positive thing one way or another though.

YOU'RE SINGLE!!! WOOHOOO!!!!!!!!!!!


Just another positive way to look at it...

[stant093]

Originally posted by Bovon

Now, I'm 40 and just looking for a girl with
big ti..errrr boobies.[/size][/b] [/B]

.....lol