Is Breaking Up Hard...?

[MatrixmaN]

...after a 3+ year relationship?

If it is, and you have, let me know what happened before I explain my own situation...thanks...any input is very welcomed.

[Beemer]

It all depends on the circumstance. Some folks have to be mean about it to make it easier for them selves. Some like to retain friendship afterwards. Myself, I'm the latter. I can still call my old flames on Christmas or New Years Eve and get a very friendly hello.

I was with a lady for 8 years. We traveled Canada by motorcycle 2 times and thoroughly enjoyed each other company all the time. A guys night out? The guys would invite her along. She could be one of the guys too! Everyone liked her around. She was/is great people.

She was my best friend and confidante first and lover second. We decided that we should move on with our own separate lives as this relationship had become only an admirable friendship. We finally realized that we hadn't done the deed for almost a year. It took 3 months for her to find a place she could call home.

We still call each other on birthdays and special occasions.

I don't regret our relationship nor our breakup. We did what was right for the both of us. She is now married and with child and living the life.

Oops! Forgot to call this holiday season. Boy I’m going to get it. Thanks for reminding me with this thread.

Cheers!

[John Prophet]

I havent dated in forever...but it was always really hard for me to breakup. I remember being at work etc and not being able to think straight and keep my mind on work. I guess it depends on how much you care for the person...but after 3.5 yrs I would think it would be pretty tuff. Luckily I never had situations where I saw the person with another guy later etc..that woulda killed, lol.

JP

[tmx468]

I broke up with my ex in October, after 3 years.

It is certainly tough, but at the end of the day, you must do what is best for both of you, and if itsn't working....

You can PM me if you want MatrixmaN.

Chris

[kranich]

All I can say is that sometimes you have to make the decision that it is time to move on as hard as that may be. I don't think it is wrong to feel bad over it but it is not just a saying that time does heal wounds. Of course I also speak from personal experience. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger.

[SeanC]

My wife and I are going to be divorcing. In Ontario you can only divorce for two reasons: Abuse or being separated for 1 year. We're separated for the one year period now.

We were fine as friends but we never should have went beyond that. There wasn't enough in common and neither of us were ready for life long commitment.

It was tough for the first few weeks for both of us. There was a lot of crying from both of us. We're still friends and hang out once in a while. We've given each other the blessing to date, if we happen to find someone who we would really want to date.

That's my situation. Each situation will be different. Different people, different circumstances.

Sean

[Blazer06]

well... ive been in a 3+ week relationship.

we both broke up with each other, because we both relized that it wasnt working out and that we would be better off as friends.

i hope it goes well man.


Blaze

[Prison Kids]

I think that breaking up is always difficult. Especially if you have been together for any length of time.

It is important to dig beyond self, and decide what is best for the both of you. This can be very hard concidering that we are human and that means we are also unique. One may think the relationship is wonderful, while the other can not go on.

I have personally never been one to impose myself (to a relationship) with someone who does feel it is working out. It always hurts, but you can also find comfort in knowing you did the right thing by respecting the feelings of someone you care deeply about.

That is true love...