Where are all the good girls???

[Solid Snake]

Just as of yesterday, I hit the end of a very painful relationship. A girl who I met five years ago told me she would be coming to my university. She was pretty much everything I wanted but thought I couldn't have. It was the summer when I heard this. When fall came she didn't show up. The reason for this is because she wasn't yet 18 and her father wouldn't let her go to school. She told me she would be with me second semester when she turned 18. Waiting was hard but I went through with it because to me, she was the answer to all that was missing in my life. Well one thing lead to another and it became a sort of long distance relationship. I begged her to come visit me but all I ever got was excuses. Two days ago I dragged it out of her that she for some reason never planned on coming to my school. She led me on because I made her feel good, made her feel loved. We're talking about thousands of minutes on the phone every month. There was a lot being said, but in the end she didn't want me. I feel strange after the fact, lonely, free and in pain. Thinking about girls and where the good ones are out there makes me feel depressed. As I grow older, I think all the good girls are taken. I'm fairly inexperienced with girls so I limit myself to girls with "low-milage". Before, I found a girl I was completely into and she tore me apart. On one hand I want to find my girl before she dissapears, on the other I feel too hurt to start something new. What's best for a guy who's been badly hurt?

[Aaron_J]

What's best for a guy who's been badly hurt?

Accept the fact that you can exist on your own. You don't need someone else to complete you. This is important beyond all else.

This girl wasn't the "one" but another will be. Just be patient.

[muno]

Distance is one thing that will likely be the cause of a downfall.

I'd not want to be in such a relationship.

The company of friends is best for anyone I remember I spent extented periods of time thinking about the relationship gone bad. Perhaps that was good in some level, perhaps not. But I doubt I would feel things the way I feel now if I had just been alone.

[shahani]

"Low mileage, low maintenance" girls are few and far between.

Live life solo.

[Blazer06]

i dont know. i feel almost like you do right now.

but if you find a hidden spot with 'em call me.. lol



Blaze

[Target]

Aaron_J hit the nail on the head... his words are wise.

[Solid Snake]

"Low mileage, low maintenance" girls are few and far between.

Live life solo.

I prefer maintenence to milage, depressing words anyway.

[shahani]

What can I say, Solid? It is depressing. But, as with most depressing stuff, it wears out exponentially with time.

Hope you find a high maintenance and low mileage partner soon.

[Chuckiechan]

I think you should stop looking and put it out of your mind.

That is when the nice girls find you. In other words if you are "looking" you are likely to read things into people that really aren't there. It probably inhibits your ability to make friends first which is probably the best way to make relationships.

I suggest you join some on campus clubs and organizations. Anything you can do to take your mind off your problems, and when you aren't looking your dream girl will find you!

[shahani]

Hey, Solid, while on the subject, what kinda guy are you? Low maintenance high mileage or reverse?

Reason I'm asking is compatibility may be an issue here.