Where are all the good girls???

[Solid Snake]

2. No one is the answer to all that was missing in your life.

Well the only thing missing from my life is a girl. A girl would fill that void, naturally.

How can you have a relationship with someone that you feel deep down inside is better than you?

I never thought she was better than me, just that it's rare because her type usually goes for the @$$holes and usually after @$$holes get done with a girl, I don't want her anymore even if she wants me.

Are those the words she used? led you on? Or did you add led me on?

Of course she led me on. She kept telling me she was going to come over and how good things were going to be. Week after week all she had was excuses. In the end she admitted the fact that she led me on and was lying to me all along. Her words, not mine.

SS, aren't you about 19? How could the good ones be taken?

Yes I'm nineteen. It feels that way to me, the girls I'm actually interested in either have boyfriends or live in another state or something else.

5. Limiting yourself to what you consider low mileage is probably really doing your self a disservice.
Everyone has heard men complain that women don't want nice guys. Right?
Well, you might be surprised how many high mileage girls are craving a low mileage guy.
And you know what? THEY WILL APPRECIATE YOU!!!!

It seems the only reason they would appreciate me is because I'm less likely to use or hurt them while they can do the same to me and probably get away with it. I know the PC thing now is "It doesn't matter how many people I've slept with, all that matters is you and me now." I don't believe it for a second, and I've paid too much attention in health class to think otherwise. I only go after girls that I may have a future with, sound dumb? I really can't pursue something that I know will have an end.

Be satisfied with yourself. Make yourself whole (at least 90% )
You want a girl that's Smart, sweet, cute, stable.
Why wouldn't your perfect mate want the same?

I'm happy with me, I've been single over 95% of my life, I just don't want to end up that way. I'm a smart guy, good looking, before this incident I was very stable and a nice guy.

[shahani]

You may still be nice.

On another note, would you settle for a frumpy kinda girl or she gotta be smart and cute? Just asking to form a complete picture.

It seems the only reason they would appreciate me is because I'm less likely to use or hurt them while they can do the same to me and probably get away with it.

sigh... be careful SS or you will end up with no one worth having because the good ones will sense your negative view on women and stay away.

btw, everything I said to you was just Auntie type stuff and in no way was anything critical, just wanted to show the other POV, and try to show you how actively sought personal growth and development might help in your life.
Good luck.

shahani, one mans frumpy is another mans fabulous

[shahani]

one mans frumpy is another mans fabulous

Yes, this is true.

[ArcticFox]

Originally posted by surreal
shahani, one mans frumpy is another mans fabulous

Very true.
I feel your pain, SS, I've been burned twice by girls at my high school, and another time recently. I asked her, she said yes, then a week later through IM she didn't think it was right and wanted to break up. She is a Christian, I am not and don't plan on it any time soon. Her policy was to not date anyone who wasn't a believer. What got me is that she said "yes", then retracted her statement. Why not just say no? It would have been a lot easier for me, maybe the both of us.

[shahani]

You're probably better off-someone who bases relationships on religion may be difficult to get along with.

Let me guess--she wouldn't change her religion but expected you to convert?

Snake, you would be a foolish, foolish man to ignore any of Surreal's advice. I'm not that much older than you and I've been through all the crap you've been through, right down to the LD internet/phone thing. You're not going to change your view because we tell you how it really is, but you'll know in the back of your mind that the advice you're getting here is right. You are angry with girls because you got shafted by one and you'll realize it isn't fair to them. Then, and only then, will you EVER have a decent relationship. If you still hold this view when you meet Ms. Right, you will lose her. I guaran-damn-tee it. Trust me. And it doesn't start hurting any less the more times it happens.

But don't take our words for it. Find out for yourself. That is, after all, the very best way to learn.

I had a girlfriend like that once, Shahani. The crazy thing is that it ended up being the longest relationship I've been in.

[shahani]

Religion don't mix with anything. Like I've been saying, religion is a personal thing to be practiced in the privacy of your home, not to be bandied about town and not to shove down anyone's throat.

Anyway, I think Snake is gonna be all right with all the good advice.

[Zitch]

Been there, done that. Hell, the longest relationship I've had was 2 weeks, and I've only dated 3 girls, and almost committed to a long distance relationship, up until I was 19. That was when I decided to not really care anymore and start living for myself.

Lo and behold, I find the perfect girl for me within the first month of that fall semester of college. I didn't know that she was perfect then, but we became friends first, then started dating the week after Thanksgiving. We both had alot in common; we both love hockey (watch and play) and video games. Someone liking hockey is pretty rare in the "deep south", much less a girl that likes and plays it. After this Thanksgiving, it'll be 5 years. We may not be perfect, and we have our individual faults, but it really seems that we are perfect for each other.

Heed the wise words on this topic. Sometimes I wish I had learned them earlier, or had people like on this board to talk to at the time. But sometimes it's better to learn the hard way. I find that it is very true that you have to learn and love yourself, before you can truly learn and love someone else.

Lol! Look at me trying to be wise! Damn this trying to be nice thing. It has to be one of my faults, ya know...

[ArcticFox]

Originally posted by shahani
Religion don't mix with anything. Like I've been saying, religion is a personal thing to be practiced in the privacy of your home, not to be bandied about town and not to shove down anyone's throat.

Yeah, it's the second time I've been burned by something I can't see or touch. I hate religeon, and will not attend church any more.