Your 16 and you get pregnant.

[GohanSSJ]

Please read this topic http://www.xtremepccentral.com/forum...&threadid=5789

If you want to comment on that topic then please do that over there.... [edited]


This is not a way to advertise XPC or anything, this is also not a way to get more members, but this is purely because i want to help her making a decision, i know it's in the end up to her, but i'm sure it will help her.

You can have a discussion here about it but safe your speech for XPC please.

Thanks in advance, i will be bumping this topic from time to time if the mods don't mind.

EDIT: If you decide to post here then please make it easy to copy paste the whole bunch for me, so keep your replys to others etc out of each other please.

Also i'm sorry if i have braken the rules now but i just really want to help her.

[Redwolf]

Hmmm....tough decisions she'd have to make.

First off, you are there for her, right? Just making sure, she is going to need a lot of care until this passes (if ever).

Second, get in touch with a mod at this site and see if you can enlist their help. I'm sure they'd be more than happy to help, as long as not too many 'rude and lewd' comments appear here (I doubt it would, not many members here would do such a thing, although that is what I told myself about them and the military when the war started (DO NOT RESPOND TO THAT. PM ME IF YOU MUST BUT THIS THREAD IS TOO SERIOUS TO BE CRAPPED!!!).

Third, realize that you did 'break the rules' with her, so to speak. If she looks at it like she told you not to tell anyone, then you go and post it on two websites on the net, then she's probably not going to want to talk to you for quite a while.... However, I admire what you are doing. And I, and I'm sure other members, want to do what we can.

Fourth, I will not give much more advice, since I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, or one of the many helpful people she will need to see. Tell her talking to her parents is good, unless they are scum as has been said before. They will get mad, but probably more mad at the fact that they weren't told sooner than what happened. If they are scum , have her talk to counselors and the such. If she's suicidal about it, she needs to see someone. There should be a rape crisis center around.

I know you said save it for XPC, but I don't want to join another fourm. No offense, I'm sure it's great...but it seems that if I join more than 2 fourms, I forget the new one and never return. I'd rather just stick here....at least for now....

-edit- She's still with the guy? That's bad...very bad. However, I just had an idea. Hmmm...no, that's probably not the best way to do it....

I'd see if I can get her to a rape crisis center personally. There are many other issues that need to be worked out besides the baby.

Gohan, if you have any concerns regarding replies to this thread, just click the report link, and any moderator will here will be glad to help you out due to the serious nature of the topic.

Robert Richmond

[Telexen]

I'm not up for registering on the other forum either, so I'll just keep it here.

That sucks for her...I don't mean this in a mean or "she had it coming" way...it really sucks...from what you said it's obviously not her fault.

Obviously she's got to tell her parents. As for her being afraid of what they'll say though - if they're good parents, they'll realize she knows she messed up and made a mistake...and they'll skip on excess lectures/yelling and let her know they're there for her, and help her through it.

Obviously she has the option of an abortion...and of course she doesn't really want to do it...I've personally never met a woman who said they could ever do it. If she really wants to consider it though, she needs to talk about that with her parents.

I'm just curious though, did she report and press charges on the guy who raped her? Do her parents know it happened?

[GohanSSJ]

You don't need to stay on XPC, that was my point.

Yeah i will help her as much i can but realize that she lives in england and i live in the netherlands.

I think she will mind what im doing, but thats why i want all the posts on XPC so that there will be no immature responses, because thats not what she needs.

The size of TIMO is also a reason why i dont want to do it here, look i know the mods will help me, but its much easier for myself to do this.

Lets simply say she is scared of telling her parents, i dont know them, but she certainly hasnt got a good relationship with them.

[GohanSSJ]

Originally posted by RobRich
Gohan, if you have any concerns regarding replies to this thread, just click the report link, and any moderator will here will be glad to help you out due to the serious nature of the topic.

Robert Richmond

Ok but i rather keep it over there, how about if everyone could just post it here then and that i copy paste the whole bunch.

However keep your storys out of each other please, it's kinda hard to get 2 storys about not registering on xpc and about her out of each other.

[Brainchild]

I left a reply over there Gohan.

again good luck

[Redwolf]

Now that I think about it, I would be scared to death to tell ANYONE, much less parents. Hmmm....If she's that scared of her mom and dad, she may be better off seeing a counselor or a psychiatrist. I don't know about England, but here in the states high school counselors are trained in these situations.

[GohanSSJ]

Yeah i told her to see 1 if she is really that scared, but she i think she is scared to do that too

At her age, she will be afraid to tell her parents. And it's also pretty common to not have a good relationship with them.

But they need to know. Now and in the future, they are the people who love her, and have the purest desire to help her the most and do the best thing for her, unselfishly.

Even though they will be mad, they are her best resource. They will find out, either way.