stopping aunt from FWD'ing...nicely

[sixf00t4]

i gave my aunt my email address a few weeks ago, and all she does is send me crap forwards.... how have others dealt with this? i cant block her completely, and i think she will be a little offended if i just say stop.

[angelcat]

The best way in my experence is, tell her that you like hearing from her, but all those forwards are causing trouble with your box. Just let her know it isn't her you are upset with, but with the forwards.

tell her that you think its great that she knows how to use and email you do enjoy hearing from her, tell you basically that you really are not interested in the forwards.

or some email forwards can be set up to look for the word FWD: and just delete it

[sixf00t4]

yeah she takes out the fwd

[Sweet]

it's so difficult to say what you need to politely enough! Try to take the time to write her an email that explains why this is called "spamming your friends". You could ask that she edit the mail if it is worthwhile to send. Probably she just wants to keep in touch and thinks it is cool. Tell her stories about how people get so upset about getting thenm and how impersonal they are, and that it's like getting a phone call for gutters at dinner or 6am. She will not stop because she just doesn't know any better. The toughest part is to not offend her, but if you can get her to understand, she might appreciate the information. Good Luck! This is a tough issue cuz it can hurt someone's feelings if not handeled delicately enough. When you communicate this, why don't you first try sending her some daily/weekly personal mails to set an example, then she might get the point.....

probably didn't help much.

good luck, if ya find something that works, lplease let us all know!!!!

[OuTpaTienT]

I've had this problem with a few people over the years. I'm telling ya, the very best way to handle it is to just bite your tongue and delete the emails. She'll probably get tired of the whole process sooner or later.

I doubt it's worth the risk of hurting her feelings simply to save you the fraction of a second it takes to add her email to the batch being deleted that day.

Now if she's sending 5 or 10 email a day, then that's a little differnt. But if it's one a day or less, don't sweat it.

[sixf00t4]

yeah its like 2 or 3 a week... i just spent so much effort perfecting my inbox, no spam at all...just hers...i think i may. we are having a big family get together this weekend, perhaps i will bring it up as a joke there, leaving a hint or 2

[RedFury]

Y'know, it's the same for every new user. They get that email for the first time, think it's really great and want to share it with you.
*my dad is like this* It's like a reverse 'right of passage'.

[sixf00t4]

she is not a new user. she has been spamming everyone else for a year or 2. someone else gave her my email address.

[crouse]

I usually just create a folder for private emails for everyone.....I can quickly see who sent me email because it's in their folder. If someone sends me lots of forwards, I usually just leave them there unread. When they ask me about them, I just tell them I don't have time to read emails that start with FWD because it's usually a joke or chain letter etc....... and that I might go through that stuff once every month or so...... that usually stops the flow of FWD email from them. They figure they are wasting THIER time ..... (people don't usually concern themselves with the fact that they might be wasting YOUR time ) Go figure

I love personal emails, but fwds and chain letters and plain junk email are a real pain in the ........ well you know When dealing with family and friends.......tact is a top priority !!

Good luck.