Ladies what's your opinon?

[johndenverx]

I lost faith a while back in attracting the opposite sex some months ago. (btw I am male) I was in a long term relationship for 5 years with a girl. During that time I never had to worry about attracting anyone because I never had to. Needless to say, my skills are severly lacking in that department.

I tried the nice guy approach and all the girls I encounter that I really like are already taken!! One friend told me that all girls down here in MS, are already taken and that I have to just be a litttle more aggressive and attract those that are already taken, instead of shying away.

I sort of have faith restored in me again, after seeing how easy my friend Moses makes it look. (Not the prophet)

Basically ladies here is my question, what does a woman look for in a man? Looks? Wealth? Power? Or is my friend Moses right, that most women will give any guy a chance, it's just the guy has to be willing to talk to them and ask them out?

Any advice would be appreciated,

JDX

[prttybean]

Well, it never hurts to ask.

DISCLAIMER: if you are a customer of the company I work for please DON'T ask.

Err, hmm, anyhow...... I personally do not like aggessive or pushy guys. There are other ways of expressing interest. My preferred type is the nice guy with a sense of humor and most importantly a JOB!!!! Intelligence helps too. If lost is reading this thread he may point out that I typically end up with big dumb construction workers though...........

[evebabyblue]

Us smart ones do just that - make a list. You should make a list too. What is it that you are looking for?

For example, when I went shopping for wizofid,(this is recent history, only 3 years ago) I wanted a guy who had table manners, looked comfortable in a suit and tie, had a sense of humor, physically attractive (personal definition - no unusual warts on the nose, etc.), had and could keep a job....

When I met men who did not fit at least 8 out of 10 of the criteria on my list of my ten top wants, I walked if not ran in some cases.

Being available is one thing - having standards is another- and that is attractive too because then you never look desperate.

Desperate men are NOT

[prttybean]

Of course I should point out that wealth will probably leave you with plenty of oppurtunities. I'm not sure thats a good way to get nice girls though.

[evebabyblue]

Wealth is good but not necessary - Some well to do guys might have swollen heads and therefore won't fit through your front door.
Wealth was not on my list - just employed and stable - mind you the 2 kids he has custody of weren't on my list either but they sure are fun and a wonderful bonus.
Eve

[johndenverx]

Well EveBabyblue I do have the sort of list, but it's hard to find out about anyone unless you go out a couple of times with them. Actually I think I fit most of your criteria!

Most women down here that are attractive are totally boring, because their beauty got them everywhere, (though not true for all.) So, conversations with them is, "Would you like to go to a movie?"

"Ok"

"Like to jump off a bridge?"

"Ok"

So, usually if a woman has a personality of her own down here, i will like them, that and if they have a sense of humor, and have fun in any situation, except maybe funerals

Still I would like to hear some more comments from you ladies out there, so please reply!!

[evebabyblue]

Alright - so you are an acceptable kind of guy - looking for a lady with personality - that narrows things down.
Actually forget the movie and head for a coffee shop or local pizza joint for a first "date" - that keeps things low on the commital scale and realtively inexpensive and therefore good for her if she happens to be the dutch date kind, and good for you if you end up with the tab. No point going broke trying to find a dame. Also, that allows an opportunity for conversation so you should be able to determine personality or lack of it fairly quickly.
Keep ing and funerals weren't spelled that way for nothing.
Eve

[BBA]

I wish I could help, but I don't seem to have those kinds of problems.

I can tell you that if you look nice and prefessional ( even if you really are ) the women will start noticing you. They may not talk right away, but eventually they will make contact with you. Yes, that's true....you just be polite and act like you don't notice them...then they will HAVE to get you.

The only problem is, once one gets you...thats when all the others come out of the woods trying to snag you away

[cadetstimp]

Maybe just explore new activities or hobbies that you may like doing. Once you find something fun and you really like doing...BAM! (<<<Emeril type...kick it up a notch!) You'll meet someone who likes the same thing.

[johndenverx]

Thanks evebabyblue for the tips on the first dates, that is a great idea. Inexpensive and lot's of conversation!

BBA, problem with is your post. I do indeed try to maintain a professional manner, there is this one girl at work I like a whole lot, we've become friends and we goof off are talk to each other you know like friends do. Problem is she already has a boyfriend, they are not ultra serious yet, as they've been going out for awhile. Well, I am not trying to move in on "his" woman, but I would at least like to be friends with her, but at the same time that is kinda of an impossibility as he is the jealous type. Oh well.

Well, like I said professionalism doesn't seem to get me very far down here, Most intelligent girls down here for some odd reason always seem to end up with the jerks.

CadetStimp, BAM! Kick up it another Noch! Emeril's Motto (btw my fav. TV show) is my life. I am always trying to find new hobbies and ways to make my life more enjoyable and exciting!

Thanks for you tips so far ladies, as they've been helpful!

Anymore ladies care to comment?