Legal question, help please!

[jerrygarcia]

I'm just going to bounce this off of you all.

Background;

My wife's ex is a police officer in our city. They had two children during their 3 years together. These girls, 12 & 13, have been with my wife and I for the last 9 years. He has joint/split custody but has only seen them for an hour at a time for the last 4 months. Prior to that, he didn't see them at all for (2 1/2) years, by his own choice. In the 2 years before that, he did see them every other weekend.

We made a suggestion to his mother that it wasn't fair to her and the rest of her family that they don't get to see/visit with our girls just because of him. We made arrangements to drop them off at her house every other weekend and the whole family has enjoyed it immensely. He comes over for dinner and visits with them and has made repeated attempts to bad mouth my wife to the girls every chance he gets.

Here's the question.

Today, he brought over my wife's police record to show it to the girls. Minor stuff here, a misdemeanor, but to a police officer that thinks that his $hit doesn't stink, he makes her out to be horrible just because she has something on her record.

What right does he have to print out someone else's record and share it with others off duty?

Does he hold the right to print off anybody's record whenever he wants?

What right do we have to protect our right to privacy?

Has he broken his own sacred laws?

I want to know the legal aspect of this!

Is this a violation of our civil rights?

If it is or if I have any rights legally, I'm going to take them against him. I tired of his abuse of the system!

Any help?

[Blazer06]

I am not a leagle guy, but I do believe that it is illeagle using the record for personal use.


Blaze

[M_Six]

That is definitely misconduct. I would report him to his superiors.

At the very least, he's guilty of poor judgment and abuse of office.

[PresterJohn]

most definitely charges can be brought against him:

misconduct
theft and appropriation of police data for personal use

get his badge number and then get him!

[no1_vern]

What prestorJohn said!

Its misconduct pure and simple, now if he had shown it to JUST your wife that would be different, she is the subject.

I dont know if you will be able to get the children to talk against their father, If you have any other witnesses you will have a much better shot of getting this guy punished, but is that what you want to do??

Vern

yah your gonna ask for trouble is they want the children to say "he did show it to us" thats just gonna cause all sorts of problems between the children and the dad which they wont need.

i would try to see if you can get other witness. im sure if the mom knew it happen without her consent she would be more than happy to testify or whatever.

in other words, keep the children out. Take note as this comes from a children from a divorced family. nothing more that i hated was to be brought into a disagreement or arguement between the parents.

[pickel]

Since it's public knowledge and in the court records, there is nothing Illegal but done in very poor taste. A real A$$hole, for sure.

[jerrygarcia]

The very least that I'd want is a reprimand, a letter put into his personnel file and a written apology. At the very least!

[jerrygarcia]

Trust me, after nine years, they are my kids. I have never stood in the way for my girls to see or talk to their father. They will be the first ones to tell you that. The ex knows that I am the best thing that ever could have happened and he has told me that. I do not communicate with him in any fashion from his paranoia. This all comes from his hatred of my wife.

This is how stupid this guy actually is, he told my wife that if we ever get divorced, he hopes that I get the girls.

My kids will be kept out of it. (.)

good to hear jerry!