Friend is suicidal

[Blazer06]

I have a friend (really I do! )

anyways, she is suicidal. what do you suggest i do to help her. I'm a bit suicidal myself, so I know how she feels. Nothing I tell her is something that she has already gone through in her mind. Still haven't found out WHY she is though.


Blaze Squared

[NeoStarO1]

Well not a whole lot you can do if that is the key word. IF she has not stated she is going to kill herself or do something to endanger herself. If you have heard her say she plans to kill herself then you can report her via 911 and she will get the help she needs and also be referred to phychiatric counseling.

However if she hasn't said she is going to do it, there is no legal recourse. She has to either have said it and means it or has done it and you found her and call 911.

Sad to say not much we can do to intervene because of the legal adult issue.

Just be there for her and try to encourage to her seek some help and also just listen to her.

[Blazer06]

what do you mean by "legal adult issue"?

Blaze

[NeoStarO1]

What I mean is that if she is over the age of 18 that another person can not report her because she is of legal age UNLESS she has specifically said she is going to kill herself or you have found her damaging or harming herself.

If she is under the age 18 then her parents retain legal rights to have her commited to either a hospital or out patient phycitrict care.

[Blazer06]

no, she is 15. Like i will be in a month.

Blaze

Agree with Neo about trying to get her to seek help. If she's a teen, try a teen helpline (which is anonymous) for more suggestions on how to help.

Always a difficult situation when someone is hurting.

Hope it works out for her.

Mick

[NeoStarO1]

she's 15
She should really talk to her parents. or at least try to get her to talk to some teen place like mick suggested. Keep an eye on her though. Teen years are rough and they are hell of a lot worse than it was when I was a teen and I felt that way too many times.

Might also want to consider talking to a trusted school counselor.

Hope it works out somehow and just be there for her and let her know that it would sadden you if she was gone. give her some ray of hope.

[Knothead]

Originally posted by NeoStarO1
Hope it works out somehow and just be there for her and let her know that it would sadden you if she was gone.

Okay, Neo, you are totally RIGHT ON!

I don't mind telling y'all that I, too, have had some of these episodes. And they are Just TOTALLY WRONG!!!

Blazer, you and your friend have got to get the help you need. Depression is not a freaking concept, it is a freaking REALITY. Lots of people see life through this reality, and the horrible thing is...sometimes, they die.

I have lost some people I loved because of depression (suicide), and let me tell you, they didn't give a single lesson about their life, the only lesson they left was that they were too freaking chicken-poop to stand the storms...

..And SO freaking selfish as to take their lives away from me, and those who loved them!

Please know one major thing, Blazer, that there are people who love you very much... and your friend needs to know the same thing.

You care for her, and others care for you...do you see?

Take care, buddy. Take real good care, okay? It's really important, trust me. "Never commit suicide, you HAVE TO see what happens next!" Okay?

Thanks. And keep us posted. Todd

[Knothead]

OK, Blazer, here's another thought: There's some pretty smart people here, and you may have figured out by now that we care some for our members, here, okay?

I think that it might not be beyond the pale of reason for you to introduce your friend to this place, she could post what she's experiencing, perhaps? Then, we could talk about it, and maybe we can help out.

Lemme tell you, the will of this board can be pretty amazing! It's worth a try, right?

Actually not a bad idea of Knothead's. Writing out your problems is often therapeutic, even if we don't have a clue here.

So, if she's willing, think of it as an anonymous help forum.

Cheers
Mick