It's Valentines Day...One Year Later

[Gouki]

Any of you guys remember this thread from last year on Valentines day?

It's Valentine's Day... Are you Loveless?

Or may be this one?

Gouki's VD Blues. (Was Re: It's Valentine's Day... Are you Loveless?)

Hard to believe it's already a year later...and what's changed? Well let's see...my "wife" and I are seperated. Have been since last September or so. About a month after we decided we wanted to get a divorce and seperate she decided that she wanted to give it another try and started to go to counseling. To be honest I don't really see much of a change in her since she's been going to counseling...not that I see that much of her to begin with. We talk every couple days and I probably see her once a week or so. Not sure how much longer I'm gonna wait for her to figure what she wants to do with her life...but so far I haven't seen any clues that she *REALLY* does want to get back together or that she wants to go ahead and get a divorce.

<sigh> Well that's me...one year later. How bout the rest of you guys? There were a number of ppl that were loveless last year according to those threads...how have things changed since last year? For the better (Hopefully)? or for the worst? At all?

This year I'll be working again...day job til 4pm then the night job from 5-9. My "wife" is working at the same place she was a year ago and she probably won't get off work til 11pm or so...and it wouldn't surprise me one bit if her and the ppl from work go out drinking afterwards. Sans me. Hmmmpphh.

Anyways...will be looking forward to your replies.

[osprey4]

Gouki:

Sorry to hear about that. Valentine's Day can be a real bummer for people who don't have someone special to spend it with. As long as y'all are still going to counseling, there's a glimmer of hope. At least you're showing up with the idea of trying to work things out.

[Gouki]

Thing is...*SHE*'s going to counseling. I went to a few sessions and the counselor wanted to do some more sessions with just my wife and I haven't been invited back since. This was about 2 months ago or maybe more. I called once and asked when I could come back to the sessions and the counselor expressed to me that technically my wife was her client...not the both of us.

The counselor then suggested that I could go to counseling on my own and try to resolve some of the issues I have...but IMHO I'd rather us both go to counseling together...not seperately. <shrug>

[Toadman]

Valentine's Day can be a real bummer for people who don't have someone special to spend it with.

Looking around the office there are flowers,inflatable heart balloons, candy, etc.This is the first time in 19 years I haven't purchased anything for my wife, since we split on January 18th. I feel like I'm forgetting to do something and a large piece is missing. I suppose if you are used to being single it is tough, but no words can describe the emotions days like this bring out when you are still in stage 1 of a break-up. They were right, holidays like today and Christmas are the worst. I've considered sending her a blue mountain e-card but then I back out of it. Can't this day go any faster? I think I'll should just ask for the rest of it off. Today's productivity is in the toilet anyhow.

[Knothead]

Originally posted by Gouki
the counselor expressed to me that technically my wife was her client...not the both of us.

Er...that doesn't sit right with me, Gouki...

That sounds very much like a hard-line legal position. You might want to try to find out what your soon-to-be-ex and this counselor are really up to!

[phenious]

While I'm not loveless my valentine is 3k miles away on another continent so I might as well be alone...:: sigh :: at least she had a rose delivered to me in school I did the same

-: phenious :-

[Gouki]

Originally posted by Knothead
Er...that doesn't sit right with me, Gouki...

That sounds very much like a hard-line legal position. You might want to try to find out what your soon-to-be-ex and this counselor are really up to!

Well I asked a couple ppl and they all say that there really isn't much to that...it is a legal thing though. She signed up for counseling...just her. Not both of us. So legally the counselor can only counsel my wife. I guess the easiest fix if we both wanted to go to counseling together would be to find a different counselor and start the process over from the beginning...this time we both sign up.

[Gouki]

Hang in there Toadman...you've got this great bunch of ppl here at TechIMO to help ya get through. If we can help, just say the word...or if ya just need someone to listen, there's plenty of ears to go around...

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