getting out of a relationship....

[Sweet]

When it is no longer to a mutual benefit. When one feels taken advantage of. How do I remove myself from a situation where he has no where to go? I feel it's sorta immoral to kick a decorated vet outta my life but...... I have to look to my son's future....(He adores him, son is 14, dad died yrs ago) Should I hang in there until my son is older or should I just try to make the move to be alone?

I've always thought of my posts here to be true to my heart, and I ask that this simple question be the same....

All comments, especially from the younger people here, would be appreciated......

[TheBurningCat]

Ok, sweet. I'm 17. Had a few swings and at the moment am in a very special relationship. (Anyone see the w00t thread)

All i can tell you is that honesty all the way. I've always worked of a selfish point of view, so telling people exactly how you feel is what i do.

[Knothead]

Hi, Sweet, what's the deal? How come no mutual benefit? Are you actually being taken advantage of? Is this guy a detriment to your life? Expiring minds wanna know.

[Sweet]

Thanks Cat! We got the honesty part down... Sometimes I feel as though things should be better.... There's got to be more than that......

To TheBurningCat..... U B on the right track der!!!!! Honesty is critical.... but there is more too....

[Sweet]

I pay. And I pay fer everything. Just got back from a great FLA vacation, I pay. I press fer a job, and say that it ain't gonna work ifn he won't help. No good, he helps around the house 'some'.....

I guess it's a god given right that if a guy does dishes once in a while that he doesn't have to help pay any bills.....

Perhaps there isn't more. Perhaps a good safe secure thing can be overshadowed by dreams of what if.

Perhaps the grass only appears to be greeneron the other side of the fence. Or in ones mind of how it should be.



Oops! I posted too soon! You can better afford to be your own partner. I misunderstood, I thought you were looking for Fireworks, not balance! He lives there without contributing... what is that teaching your son? He can have a relationship with your son and not live with you.

[Sweet]

I agree Surreal....

but I gotta think.... Why don't I have any goals except for goals fer my son.....

I've tried talking about future plans...... (oh yea, winning the lottery would be a good thing).....

Where do I draw the line? How many more cigarettes and wine do I have to buy before I get it into my mentality that I can't do it no more........

[Knothead]

He doesn't at least pay HALF the bills?


Forgive me, just trying to get an idea of what's going on there.

[Sweet]

How true Surreal....

I am not looking for fireworks.....

I am asking for the peeps here to bea sounding board, to help me to get a perspective of what should life be like......

I have no family to help (long story). I am alone here with my bf and my son. The bf is good but he cannot help me with my worries of what it costs to live here..... It would be better for my son and I to be alone and make the best of it......

How do I ask my great friend to leave.......

[Sweet]

Knot, the amount is knot, pun sorta intended....

not half fer the cable,
not half fer the electric,
not half for the gas,
not half for the mortgage,
not half for the insurance,
not nothin! fricking nothin!