I NEED your opinions!

[Martoch]

First off thanks for reading!
Ok, I'll try to make this as painless as possible!

My ex-wife and I are both military and of course we have a 5 yr old son, Tyler. Well only one of us can be his sponsor through the miiltary, which entitles that person to an extra $100/month for Housing Allowance. We split all of his bills 50/50 and we each have him for 2 weeks out of every month. She pays NO extra payments or is responsible for anything more than I am.
I pay for the same things she does...his food, clothing, the extra bedroom in my house for him, etc. My question to you is this...shouldn't I be getting $50 out of that $100/month extra that she's getting? My answer is a big YES! However, when I bring up things like this to her we usually get into an argument because for whatever reason she doesn't take things like this very well. I AM going to bring it up, but I was wondering what you guys have to say about this...believe it or not your opinions make a difference!

Thanks!
Mike

[Warthog]

*oops* read it wrong

*edit*
I don't see why you don't get $50 out of that $100....

I'd say that since every expense is split 50/50, each of you should get $50 from the $100.

No question.

[Mead]

If all the bills are split 50/50 why would the benifits not also be split 50/50? You have him half the month you should get half the housing allowance.

[caddmannq]

You're entitled alright. On paper. Legally.

But let's see....
She's your EX?
So you're not really on good terms, then?
Unless you wanna bug her commander about this, I'd forget about trying to get it.

Heck, I'm happily married, and on very good terms, and I'd still have a hard time getting the $50 out of my wife. Even though she makes the same kind of salary I do, and often a bit more.

That's just the way women think. Men were put here for their bennefit. Not vice-versa.

OK...I love my wife...but here's a perfect example:

In 2000 I made a couple thousand more than her. She said that since I made more, I should pay more of the taxes we owed.

In 2001 She made a couple thousand more than I did. She said that since she made more, that she should get to keep more of the refund we got.

"Wait a minute!" I said. "When I make more I have to pay more; but when you make more, you get to keep more?...Just how is that fair???"

She knows it's not. But it was impossible for her to admit that the logic of these two things were incompatible. The fact that we file jointly and co-mingle our income doesn't enter her head. What does enter her head is that there's extra money out there, & she must do whatever she must do to claim it as her own.

No other male (real) logic need be considered.

[pickel]

Just give her fifty bucks less on the cost of the upkeep of your child...then..see what happens ?*!! GOOD LUCK

[NeoStarO1]

I say it should be split 50/50 if you both take equal care, so therefore from what i understand per military rules only one can be sponser put one name down as sponser and give ex spouse 50 bucks of her/his share.

[Martoch]

My thoughts exactly Neo!
Cadd, actually we're very good friends...she's just "touchy" sometimes.

[caddmannq]

Originally posted by Martoch
...Cadd, actually we're very good friends....

Oh, geeze...have we men been screwed around by all this new-age touchy-feely, "...we can still be friends..." nonsense!

Your ex-wife is your worst enemy! Don't trust her one second. If she was your friend you'd already have the fifty bucks! Friends don't try to cheat each other.

Repeat after me.: "My ex-wife is my worst enemy...My ex-wife is my worst enemy...My ex-wife is my worst enemy..."

(Your current wife is your second worst enemy! She'll cheat you too if you let her, but don't repeat that out loud!)

[markuy06]

If 50/50 is the agreement try this
add total expences for child
subtract the $100.00 and
devide the diffrence.
that way it is fare on both parts
if she doesn't agree to that then maybe this will work
put the $100.00 in a trust fund so when the child turns 18 or 21 (when) finished with school the child will get it with interest and investment potental.
if she doesn't agree to any of it she is just play
GREEDY

mar