Why Is Nunyadam so deppressed?

[nunyadam]

bear with me if/as I ramble on my mind is going a million different directions, and My heart is very heavy in my chest.

The reason for all of this is my wife of 13 years who I love very dearly has had suicidal thoughts. she has been seeing a counseler for a short time to find out why she was depressed, and suffering from anxiety attacks. as they have dug deeper into whats wrong she has gotten worse.(hopefully that old saying "Its always darkest before the dawn" is true.
because of this the counseler sent her to a psychiatrist, who addmitted her to the hospital ASAP.

Her love for me and her family keep her here, but thing from her past that I really new nothing about are coming to the surface. My wife is a very loving person Who loves children but can't have any,she was also raped in her youth, her father is a recovering alchoholic.(he's a better man for it, I saw both sides of him.) and we have had 3 failed addoption attempts.

I think she has so much hate,hurt,and rage built up in her system she doesn't know where to put it.

I agree with her Dr on putting her in, but we told him basicaly to back the truck up when he suggested electroshock right from the get go.
she is not in the hospital i work at (but I am checking in to that.)
(dang insurance for her work makes her go there as primary)
I have a good friend who works on pshyc where i work who I will talk to monday and see what she thinks of her doctor, and Who to ask for a second oppinion. don't much care for the thought of basicaly reformating my wife and not knowing what I'll get back. (damn that sounds like windows.j/k)

I will stop here by saying I never knew how much I loved her until all this happened.(we say i love you all the time this just makes me realize how much I love and need her in my life.

nunya

[NeoStarO1]

Well I think the reason you are depressed is because you are watching someone you care and love very much going through a hard struggle. This is not an easy situation to deal with expecially when it affects someone as close to you as your wife.

Hang in there bud!!! We all are here for you.

NeoStar

[geekgrl]

Please, get a second opinion! I'm all for second opinions. And third opinions if needed.
I'm sorry for what you are going through. If you need someone to talk to, PM, email, anything.
Also, be strong for your wife. It's good that you love her so much, because that is what is going to help her get through this.
Take care, and please keep us updated on what is going on.

[crystaldragon]

Get all the opinions you can. And as NeoStar01 already said we're here for you. Feel free to contact me direct if I can be of any support or you just need an ear. You already have the source for the strength to get through this Your Love and Hers.
JD

[OuTpaTienT]

Agreed. More opinions are good. And in this case that would include even going outside her HMO coverage if necessary to find the right doctor. If you gotta pay, then you gotta pay. Do whatever it takes.

And I'm a little worried when you say her doctor suggested electro shock "from the get go". If so they you should have been seeking a new doctor "from the get go". Don't let yourself be an outside observer in her treatment. And do NOT allow yourself to lulled into a dark depression yourself. Be proactive! Find a doctor you trust and work closely with him at treating her.

It sounds like it's going to be rough road ahead, but you got to do everything you can for her. And in turn we'll do everything we can for you, just make sure to keep talking to us, so you know you have an outlet.

[nunyadam]

though I have suffered with deppression before I can not truely know her pain or do much more than be there to support her.
I know that it what she needs most.

thanks folk's and I may take you up on that ear.


nunya

[nunyadam]

out

I let myself feel down last night . but had to start the day fresh knowing what path I wanted to follow. due to my work schedule my only contact lastnight was by phone. (had to check her in then go to work and call her from there.) When i saw her today it was hard.(espescialy when they ask if she is still thinking about it, and she say's "honestly , yes")

Glad I've had some time to just let some of it out before I go see her in a bit.

nunya

[Admin RR]

Depression and anxiety are as real as a broken arm and can be treated, so don't give up hope. Seeking treatment is far better than trying to pretend that it's "all in her head" etc. Beware of doctors insisting treatments without thorough diagnosis, and second opinions are a good idea. Most people need medication, psychotherapy, cognitive therapy, support of friends and family, and time, to get better...

[MMock]

hey, good luck with everything! You need to be stonger than her just so she can have your support when she needs it the most! You will really never know how much you love someone untill they need you or when you need them or at worst case when you lose someone that you say you love! So, just be as strong as you possibly can and give her all of your love!


Good luck!

[Agent_Embryo]

Yeah. When it seems nothing can get any worse, it gets just a little bit worse, but then things _always_ get better. My thoughts are with you. Good luck.