why is love like the tango?

[Chooco]

the statement 'love is like tango, one side advances, the other retreats' was said by Elliot on Just Shoot Me a while back and there is truth to it.

why is it that if you are interested in a girl and you treat her nice, she will feel repulsed by your presense and avoid you at all cost but if you ignore her, she will hit on you and if you act like an @$$hole she will hit on you?

same thing goes for women liking men, if a woman chases after a man, he will ignore her but if she worships the ground he walks on, he will not make a move or be interested in a relationship?

i seriously don't get it.

[Gomer]

That's not love.

[AzKidd69]

chooco..
I think you missed the point of that whole statement.. it was talking more about how a relationship actually works...

My interpretation is that when one party in a realtionship gets what they want (advances) the other party ends up losing something (retreats). Basically it's saying that a relationship is about compromise.....

[Chooco]

sorry for wording it wrong

RELATIONSHIPS are like the tango, there we go

[Chooco]

Originally posted by AzKidd69
Basically it's saying that a relationship is about compromise.....

well is there an explanation for what i said though? the way of ignoring the other somehow turns them on for some screwed up reason.............is it just me or do you notice that a lot of women are attracted to @$$holes? i mean like people who are inconsiderate, rude to others, not true gentlement sometimes refered to as 'rebels' although it really means they don't like order and they must break the rules.

[Warthog]

Confidence.

The men who act like @$$holes are confident. It's much more complicated than that, obviously....love can be like that....

Warthog

[Chooco]

that makes sense, but what about confident men who actually be nice to the woman and are not shy? to act nice and be very flexible around her wants are somehow seen as repulsive, a guy who is commanding, takes control and says "i will pick you up at this time, we are going to this restaurant, dress this way" seem to get the girls.

is this all about taking command then?

[Warthog]

Being controlling and being confident are two different things altogether.

It also depends on how good you are at selecting the perfect specimen (for you).

[Chooco]

well i haven't done it myself because of a few reasons: i'm shy, i'm confident in what i say but afraid to say it too loud, generalized tension around other people.

i've seen my friend total head over heals for this one girl, she was very beautiful and smart. he talks to her a lot and is always friendly to her but she never seems interested. she just got a new boyfriend who is one of those guys who wears the $100 shirts even though they don't have squat for cash and they wear stupid boots to make them look 3" taller....anyway, this guy isn't nice like my friend is, i can tell that he is not as good looking because he is not clean shaven like my friend is, he's sorta one of those guys who has a green face because he can't shave worth a crap, he's sort of controlling over her, he's a drop out of the stupid math/science/english classes and he is one of those people who will make a scene just because he knows his friends are watching.....
my friend is a lot louder than i am, if you dare him to talk to somebody he will actually do it. he is confident in what he says and he's decisive......just not a forceful kind of decisive.

i don't get it.

[Warthog]

IMHO, it's the fault of the girl in that situation. Beauty and being a brainiac don't count for shite when it comes to actual deep down, personality.

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