Fiance NO LONGER

[Sweeper]

Well, nothing has been going exactly as planned. My girlfriend of almost 2 years and recently FIANCE is moving out. Our relationship has become very stressfull over the last 9 months and although I have tried to fight through it by making changes here and there, nothing has worked and I have gotton to the point that I am unhappy about 90% of the time. There is a lot going on behind the scenes which I don't really want to get into, but I just needed to let out some emotion. I feel really wierd. I know I will miss her but yet I do enjoy time alone. I have always been a quiet type of person. I don't like chaos, yelling, fighting. But lately there has been just too much for me to take. Seperating was the only solution either of us had. I feel glad that in one way some stress will be gone, but in another, I know I will miss her.

Sweeper

[vass0922]

Hey sweeper, hang in there bud.

I know what you mean...

Just remember we're always here for ya if ya need to vent. You've always got family and friends here

Yes it will be tough I wouldn't BS ya, but sometimes things happen that you dont understand... many times its for the better

"Our greatest victory is not in never falling, but in rising each time we fall"

Depressing news, Sweep.

But everything happens for the best, believe me. In the long run.

And, Dude, you're so young, with your whole life ahead of you. Think positive.

Best Luck and Cheers.

Shahani

[OuTpaTienT]

I feel for ya dude. And I do know how it feels. Once picked up my whole life and moved away to another city, state (Seattle) to start a new life with the fiancé. Life was grand…for a few months. Then she decides to call it quits and go home. Her home was Hawaii, so she was completely out of the picture, and I was left stranded with a 12 month lease for our apartment and 1500 miles away from any friends/family. Kinda brutal but you do what you gotta do to survive. Hang in there buddy. Talk to us if you need to.

[Ptrper]

Hey Sweep,

Having gone through the mental anguish myself, let me tell you.

1. Life is toooo short to be miserable and try to ponder what went wrong. Just go ahead and move on.

2. At least there isn't a child involved in this... or is there??!!

3. Always look for the silver lining in this cloud... All the money you would've spent on her, you now can spend on yourself.

4. You have time for yourself... Ever get annoyed when they say something like, "you used to...?" ie. you used to tell me that you love me, hug/hold/kiss me..."

Anyways, it seems a little wierd to begin with, but you'll be amazed at the freedom you now have. Enjoy it.

Oh yeah, BTW, another thing to remember is that because you two weren't married, she can't screw you on "your" stuff. My ex left me with the clothes on my back, and my acoustic guitar.

It's hard, I've been through the mill, too. I don't think feelings are much different from a woman's perspective on this kind of thing.

You invest alot of time and have high hopes and then things somehow just start unravelling at the seams. You try to make it work, and end up even more miserable. It's not fun when it happens, but getting out and getting on with your life is sometimes the best thing you can do for your own happiness. You know it in your gut, but it doesn't make it any easier.

Best wishes, and yes we're here if you need us.

[BBA]

Bummer...

I hope you didn't loose too much on the engagement ring then ( you did say she was your fiance ).

[Sweeper]

Thanks everyone. The engagement ring was from my Great Grandmother, so she gave it back. It's been a rough day. Sorta sick to my stomach. Haven't ate much either. She said she would let me know where she was going to stay at, but I haven't heard anything from her since this morning when she left. I really hate relationships. No wonder I was single for 2 years before I decided to date her. I hate this feeling. It's just the worst feeling IMO.!

[Sweet]

Best wishes for a speedy recovery to you. All good advice above.
Take a bit of time to do something special for yourself. I'll send some good vibes ur way.....

i know how you feel man, (with the not eating and what not) went thru it with a girl about two summers ago. But i wasn't engaged or anything. Just a teen thing. Stupid thing was i would sit there and start randomlying cry after it was over with. Which not a fun thing to do. i went to Hooter's after i got back home and i was just to numb to enjoy it. If sysopt was up i could show you the thread i wrote at 4 am expressing my feelings. I look back and laugh now. But i understand everything you are feeling. Hang in there! everything will be okay.


Socalgal someone did that to you!? give me there name and address and ill deal with them!!!


JaYsin