Always wondered what the deal was when jumping a car. I think that for the most part, the batter blowing up/fried alternator-ECM is a bit of a myth to keep stupid people from trying to jump other peoples cars
The biggest problem I run into is trying to get a good connection and get that darn other car to start. I've come to the conclusion that you either need really good cables, or that you just can't get a good enough of a connection to get a car started without sitting there for a couple of minutes.
Oh, and as far as not running the engine while jumping....good luck finding a Minnesotan that's going to shut off their source of heat on that cold as H-E-L-L day when the poor souls car won't start. You'll find 2 complete strangers sharing the tight spaces of a small pickup truck on a day like that.