Shipping can either be an estimation on your part, or you can check tables on each respective shipper's site to get a good idea of what it will cost. You may want to limit sales to other countries or offer to calculate shipping charges for them at the end of the auction. I have done this in the past and always state in the auction that shipping charges will be actual amounts and nothing will be added for "handling".
USPS:
http://postcalc.usps.gov/ (This is my favorite way to ship b/c it is quick and the most reliable)
UPS:
http://wwwapps.ups.com/QCCWebApp/req...iso_country=US ( be sure to NOT put "Fragile" on any package or it WILL arrive broken (I have had this happen countless times

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FedEx:
http://www.fedex.com/ratefinder/home?cc=US&language=en
I am not sure how ID verified works. Any eBay charges come directly out of my credit card account (debit card).
ID Verify page:
http://pages.ebay.com/services/buyan...ify-login.html
When selling, look at other people's pages where they are selling similar stuff. This always gives me good ideas of what to do and what NOT to do when posting my ad.